Favorite Grief Supporting Essential Oils

Let’s discuss some essential oils to help support the grief process. Grief is something we all go through from time to time. Maybe you lost a loved one or broke up with a loved one are just are not getting along with someone you love and care for.  No matter the cause, grief is painful to go through.

Stages Of Grief

There are 5 documented stages of grief per the Kübler-Ross model, which is described as a series of emotions experienced by terminally ill patients prior to death, or people who have lost a loved one, wherein the five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.  You can read more about Grief in the book by Kubler Ross entitled “Of Grief and Grieving“.

Let me briefly describe each stage for you and share some essential oils you may try during each stage. Note, all grief does not necessarily go through each of these stages.

Denial is the first stage of grief. This stage helps with survival of loss and sorrow. Things can becoming overwhelming during this time with meaning being lost to it all. Shock can help with survival during this time as this phase fades into the next stage these oils may help support.

Some great oils to use during the Denial phase are Geranium and Lavender.

Anger is the next stage where you begin to feel more compared to the denial stage where everything may feel numb. The emotions are strong as they kick in. This stage may make you question if God is really there, where was He? Under all this lies your deep rooted pain from the situation you are walking through.

Some oils that may help support the Anger stage and during times of anger include your favorite calming oils such as Peace & Calming, Stress Away and Roman Chamomile.

Bargaining sometimes occurs before a major loss where you may plead with God for what you wish to happen. Guilt sometimes is an emotion experiences during this phase as you go through the “If Only’s”…this stage can last months depending on the situation.

Some essential oils to use during this time may include Forgiveness, SARA, Hope, Peppermint.

Depression can be the next stage from deep sadness to clinical depression. This time can leave one feeling empty and loss. Some become withdrawn to other things going on around them in their “everyday life”. This stage is very normal especially after the loss of a loved one as we know that the stages of grief are all necessary for the healing process.

Some oils to help deep sadness and periods of depression may include Frankincense, Cypress and Joy

Acceptance is about dealing and accepting the reality of the situation. It doesn’t mean one is ever “ok” with what has happened but they have developed their own method of coping and is the beginnings of moving forward with their life. Things are often forever different and changed but one moves into a re-adjustment period and learning to live differently. In the case of losing a loved one, they will have “good days” and “bad days”. New connections can start to be made.

Some oils to help support during the Acceptance stage are: Present Time and Acceptance, Coriander and Orange.

Essential Oils to Support Sorrow and Grief

Did you know that you can use essential oils to naturally support your emotions? I listed some oils for the different grief stages but there are many oils to support sorrow and sometimes you need to experiment a bit to figure out which one you best respond to.

Bergamot is thought to help turn sorrow into Joy.  Some other singles you could also use include Lavender, Eucalyptus, Roman Chamomile, Juniper and White Angelica.

Young Living has many blends that would wonderful to support sorrow as well including Forgiveness, Gentle Baby, Present Time, Release, 3 Wise Men, Valor or even Joy.

How To Use EO’s for Emotions

You can use the oils in a variety of ways by diffusing in a cool mist diffuser or apply topically. I often like to apply emotional oils close to my heart or over my wrists. I often wear diffuser jewelry as well so that I can continue to smell the oils. You can even bring oils with you in the car or to the office with a portable diffuser.

Massage is a great way to use oils for emotional release. You can have someone do a raindrop on your with emotional oils or do a modified one on your self.

Essential Oils for Grief

The following are some wonderful blends you can use to support grief and sorrow. Try mixing 2-3 and use in your favorite application method.

Bergamot, Cypress, Myrrh, Roman Chamomile, Vetiver, Rosemary or any of the oils listed above.

Grief Diffuser Blend

Add 2 drops each to cool mist diffuser: Marjarom, Lemon, Clary Sage, Rosemary, and Bergamot.

Grief Rollerball Recipe

Using a 10 mL roller top bottle add 12 drops Bergamot, 8 drops Frankincese and 5 drops Vetiver. Top with your favorite carrier oils.


Grief Support

Talk to a friend, let your church support you and/or consider counseling during this painful time. Don’t be alone as you walk out your grief and find your own emotional healing.





5 Super Easy EO Spray Bottle Recipes

Easy Spray bottle recipes are perfect for replacing so many things around your home. Did you know you can replace so many toxic and chemically laden products found in your home using some very simple ingredients?!

I found some great spray bottles (and other fun oily supplies) from Got Oil Supplies. Spray bottles come in all shapes and sizes. There are glass ones and even plastic that all work well for these recipes. I prefer the glass ones with the essential oils but if they are heavily diluted I don’t mind the plastic which I mainly use for my cleaning recipes specifically my All Purpose Cleaner.



My Top 5 Spray Bottle Recipes

  1. Facial Toner-this is a good one to replace if you aren’t already using Young Living’s ART toner. Many toners on the market contain alcohols which are very drying to the skin. You can create your own toner with any essential oils you choose based on your skin’s needs to best support your own skin. Just mix your favorite essential oils 12 drops into a 2 oz. spray bottle along with some organic Vitamin E (for skin softening) and fill with Organic Witch Hazel. Shake before use.
  2. Hair Tonic-this one is great for supporting healthy hair growth. My husband loves this and uses it daily after he washes his hair. He sprays it onto his damp hair. Just add 6 drops Lavender and 6 drops Rosemary into a 2 oz. spray bottle with some filtered water and you are ready to spray.
  3. Pit Spray-now this one is a must have for summer. I have a couple recipes on my blog for a solid deodorant and another armit spray. This is just another variety. Remember you will still sweat with homemade deodorants. They don’t have the anti-perspirant part (which is what you don’t want because most have aluminum). Aluminum has been shown to cause Parkinson’s and Dementia. This one is simple just add 25 drops of your favorite EO’s to a 4 oz. spray bottle. Purification is a great blend that contains some powerful oils including Tea Tree that works great for this. It also comes in your Premium Starter Kit. Another favorite combo is Tea Tree mixed with Lavender. Add half alcohol free witch hazel to filtered water and shake and spray on pits as needed.
  4. Poo-Poo Spray. Why pay for the fancy high priced version when you can DIY your own #2 spray. The idea is to “spray into the bowl before you go so no one will know”. This also eliminates toxic room deodorizing sprays that are full of things like formadehyde and other VOC’s (volatile organic compounds) that irritate the nasal passages and airways. (Learn about what chemicals you DON’T want in your home.) Make your own natural poo poo spray with 12 drops Lavender and 12 drops Peppermint added to a 4 oz. spray bottle. Fill with 1 teaspoon of witch hazel and the rest of the way with filtered water. Shake and spray beforehand. This will work great sprayed in any room too. Use your favorite combinations of oils.
  5. Stinky Shoe or Stinky anything spray. This one comes in handy when cooking something particularly odiferous such as eggs or fish. It works well in pet bedding areas or cat litter rooms. I like to use it in stinky boy shoes. In a 4 oz. spray bottle add 25 drops of Purification with 1 teaspoon of witch hazel and fill with filtered water. Spray away!




These are 5 spray bottle recipes and I can think of about 25 spray bottle recipe combinations I use around the house for tons of other every day uses.





Patchouli Essential Oil Uses and Recipes

Patchouli essential oil is quite versatile. It plays well with many other oils to support your health and vitality.

Here is what Young Living has to say about Patchouli

Patchouli oil (Pogostemon cablin) is carefully extracted through steam distillation of a low, bushy shrub native to tropical regions in Southeast Asia. Although the plant is part of the mint family, Patchouli essential oil has a powerful, musky scent, and because of its complex aroma, Patchouli oil uses often include perfumes, soaps, incense, and essential oil blends.

With a rich history and unique aromatic profile, Patchouli oil is perfect for the free spirit. Use its calming, relaxing aroma during meditation or yoga practice or apply topically to improve the appearance of skin.

Some Uses for Patchouli

Patchouli essential oil is commonly used in skincare products and for emotional support. It is also found in many other products as it is a very versatile essential oil.

With skin soothing benefits, it is especially nice for aging skin. For skin support add apply 2-3 drops with gentle massage for a healthy, youth-ful glow. Add to your hair products for healthier hair.

It is also calming and relaxing. Patchouli oil with its relaxing properties may help to clarify thoughts, allowing getting rid of jealousy, obsessions and insecurities.

For emotional release apply topically using 2-4 drops directly to desired area. Dilution not required except for most sensitive skin, although I tend to use carrier oil most of the time. You can also diffuse throughout your day for a calm and peace filled environment.

Places to Find Patchouli

Patchouli is found in other Young Living products including: Abundance, Allerzyme, Animal Scents Ointment, DiGize, Live with Passion, Magnify Your Purpose, DiGizeDiGizeDiGize, Peace & Calming, Rose Ointment

Caution: Keep out of reach of children. For external use only. Keep away from eyes and mucous membranes. If you are pregnant, nursing, taking medication, or have a medical condition, consult a health professional prior to use. Avoid direct sunlight or UV rays for up to 12 hours after applying product.


Patchouli Diffuser Recipes

Try out some different combinations with Patchouli to create your desired effect and aroma. You can interchange the combos to make roller ball recipes for quick and easy application or diffuse in a cool mist diffuser.


Roller Ball Recipes

Making your own roller ball recipes is fun and easy. You can tweak them to your liking so easily. Just grab an empty 5 or 10 mL oil bottle and add a roller fitment, from Young Living. You can also grab a set of roller balls. I prefer the 10 mL size as it lasts me longer and then add your favorite carrier oil along with your blend.


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I’d love for you to leave me a comment with your favorite combos!!